Showing posts with label gay christians. Show all posts
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Friday, October 05, 2007
Monday, June 26, 2006
God and the Gays: To Be or Not to Be (Chapter 1)
Introduction:
Regardless of whether you're gay or straight (or undecided) – the hot topics discussed within these pages are sure to be provocative! Who hasn't wondered what's going on? Even the Church leaders are confused and the laity divided. Is sex all there is? Find out what life's all about - read on! Dedicated to my understanding mother who said: "No matter who you are or what you do, you're still my son and I love you."
David Ben-Ariel
CHAPTERS
Chapter 1
To Be or Not to Be
Chapter 2
God and the Gays: All that Glitters isn't Gold
Chapter 3
God and the Gays: Once Gay, Always Gay?
Chapter 4
God and the Gays: Of Vice and Men
Chapter 5
A Time to Heal
Chapter One
TO BE OR NOT TO BE...
Homosexuality.... Is it a matter of choice? Are some born that way? And if so, then how could God condemn it? Or does He? Does it make a difference? Who offered it as an "alternative lifestyle?" Are same-sex drives due to conditioning? Are gays and lesbians a quirk of nature? Something queer to jeer? Would it have been better to have never been born? All of these questions and more are only a few of the many that race through people's minds; causing controversy, heated arguments and emotional wounds, as words fly back and forth carelessly.
It could be safe to say that homosexuality is the result of many factors. But who's to blame? Must we even lay a guilt-trap at anyone's door? Maybe mother, then again there's the father who didn't figure for too much. Society? Genes? The stars? Most people know their sexual orientation by their teens. They don't just suddenly discover they're "straight" and "come out" about it. Let's get real.
Who's to accept the responsibility for our actions? Some have felt "gay" ever since they were very young and therefore imagine that they were born gay. Others seem to pick up, adopt or assimilate homosexual tendencies through association. They must have already had an inclination towards it. It rubbed off on them. Then there are those who were bored and needed a change. They wanted to try it and see if they liked it. Sometimes, due to "force" of circumstances, men in prison, boy's homes and/or monasteries, might resort to homosexual activities. Later, as soon as possible, some of them revert to heterosexual ways, while others continue to enjoy the "best of both world" as a bisexual. Are "bestiality is best" fans born that way? Or are incestuous relationships something innate? Do we have a predisposition chemically for incest? Are we set up for such a fall from birth? Would that justify or excuse us? Is promiscuity merely a part of man's "animal instincts?" Is the challenge of the chase a primeval hang-over from the "days of the hunt?" Actually, ALL of the above are simply DISTRACTIONS! It's not a question of who or what we're most comfortable with, prefer, like or are attracted to; those are only attempts to sidestep the real issue!
God isn't only the Creator, but the Sustainer of the entire universe. As such, his Majesty's Government - headquartered in the highest heaven - has issued (at Mt. Sinai) various health rules and regulations (Malachi 4:4). The Creator-King has predetermined, in His infinite wisdom, which "food and drugs" are safe and sound for our consumption.
If we keep uppermost in mind the reason for our mortal existence, the SUPREME PURPOSE for our human-being; to establish contact with our Superior-Being and develop a relationship with Him - then we'll know and understand that everything God does is for our benefit. God wants to help us, not hinder us. He enjoys encouraging us to attain our goals and fulfill our potential (Luke 12:31-32). Father does know what's best: what He has in store for us is beyond our wildest dreams (Ephes. 3:20; 1 Cor. 2:9)!
The High Cost of Living
Whoever chooses to be a card-carrying member of the homosexual community is entitled to all of it's privileges and persecutions; but you should first COUNT THE COST to see if it's too high of a price for you to pay, like Christians are told to do (Luke 14:28).
If anyone decides to engage in illicit sex or become entangled in "foreign affairs," they're living a lie if they think that God could possibly approve of their improper conduct, and they're compounding their problems if they lead others astray by attempts to endorse such flagrant sin (Rom. 1:32). Do what you want, but don't misrepresent God and His clear-cut Biblical teachings. Don't try and put words in His mouth or censor what He's actually said (Rev. 22:18-19).
Yes, GOD IS LOVE! That's why He hates certain practices with a passion. He frowns upon a dishonest life of stealing, an unfaithful habit of "cheating" on our spouse, a disrespectful attitude towards our parents or persons in authority, religious holidays that are hollow and don't hallow His name, senseless killings and character assassination, idolatrous distractions that come between God and us, an endless trivial pursuit and preoccupation with ourselves and others, instead of putting God first. God loves us and wants us to love Him too, but He considers love more than a four-letter word: love is an attitude exemplified by actions, words that are backed up with deeds (Jas. 2:26). That's why Jesus said that if we really loved Him, we'd show it and not just say it (John 14:15).
Safe-Sex
Since God is love, and Father knows best, He wants us to practice safe-sex. A safe-sex that's good and wholesome, clean and pure, and only available within a marriage where both partners keep their vows and honor their commitments (Heb. 13:4). Sexual intimacy, cuddling and coitus, belongs in the bedroom (of the Biblically-bonded), and it's to involve the union of both minds and bodies (Gen. 2:24). Married couples are challenged to become compatible in every sense of the word. A marriage certificate doesn't have to be "just a piece of paper" or become another broken record! God does recognize the fact that marriage isn't for everyone (Mat. 19:11), but expresses His will that singles remain celibate (1 Thes. 4:3).
God only promises to bless those foods (or relationships) that are sanctioned by His Word (1 Tim. 4:4-5). He's not unsure of Himself or His ways, He's not fickle or foolish, and His Word is reliable, dependable, and not subject to change. This hasn't caused the scriptures to be too popular at times, but they refuse to succumb to peer pressure and remain true to themselves. They're not what needs to change anyway. We do. God hasn't lowered His moral standards or compromised with His food laws, but offers to help raise us to His God-Plane. Christ can cleanse us of our unclean lives (Acts 10:15, 28), because God hasn't called us to remain in Egypt but to head for the Promised Land. Don't just stand there, get a move on it! And leave your excess baggage (sin) behind.
Kosher Food
Although God created us with a hunger drive, an appetite, He doesn't want us to become gluttonous pigs. Neither does He want us to act like horny dogs (1 Cor. 6:13). God's also shown us that just because various food items have been mislabeled "delicacies," we don't have to shove them into our mouths (Lev. 11). We're expected to be mature, not act childish. God warns us to guard the doors of our mind, don't set ourselves up for a fall, and discern what we digest (Ephes. 4:27; Heb. 5:14). We're instructed to scrutinize our food for thought and remember "we are what we eat" and "we become what we think" (Prov. 23:7). God doesn't only want us to watch what we put into our mouths, but what we allow into our minds (Philip. 4:8). For a free list of "government approved" food for thought; what's clean and unclean, pure and impure, kosher and non-kosher - check out Ga. 5:19-23; Ephes. 5:11 and Philip. 1:11.
We're not supposed to remain raw material. God's given us a brain to become refined and keep our baser "instincts" in line (2 Pet. 2:12). The Holy Spirit offers us the help we need to accomplish this job (John 1:12). We should refuse to be reduced to an animal level, simply sensual creatures, choosing a higher standard of living instead. The "if it feels good do it" and "if it looks good eat it" lack of mentality ought to be regarded as an insult to those striving for God's higher intelligence.
Regardless of why you're gay, bisexual or "trysexual" (you'll try anything once), whether or not you've had any choice in the matter - you do have a choice to exercise proper self-control. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SLAVE TO YOUR SENSES (John 8:34), or allow sexual temptations to dictate mindless reactions (Gen. 19:4-11).You're not forced to act upon every thought that enters your mind. You can resist suggestions and reject impulses (2 Cor. 10:5). Every fleeting thought, random idea or stray notion doesn't have to take root and grow if you don't give it fertile ground (Jas. 1:13-15). You can consider its source and nip it in the bud. A "NO TRESPASSING!" frame of mind can be developed to defend you against intruders. Protection is possible. You can say NO! You can curb your appetite! YOU CAN CHANGE!
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5
Regardless of whether you're gay or straight (or undecided) – the hot topics discussed within these pages are sure to be provocative! Who hasn't wondered what's going on? Even the Church leaders are confused and the laity divided. Is sex all there is? Find out what life's all about - read on! Dedicated to my understanding mother who said: "No matter who you are or what you do, you're still my son and I love you."
David Ben-Ariel
CHAPTERS
Chapter 1
To Be or Not to Be
Chapter 2
God and the Gays: All that Glitters isn't Gold
Chapter 3
God and the Gays: Once Gay, Always Gay?
Chapter 4
God and the Gays: Of Vice and Men
Chapter 5
A Time to Heal
Chapter One
TO BE OR NOT TO BE...
Homosexuality.... Is it a matter of choice? Are some born that way? And if so, then how could God condemn it? Or does He? Does it make a difference? Who offered it as an "alternative lifestyle?" Are same-sex drives due to conditioning? Are gays and lesbians a quirk of nature? Something queer to jeer? Would it have been better to have never been born? All of these questions and more are only a few of the many that race through people's minds; causing controversy, heated arguments and emotional wounds, as words fly back and forth carelessly.
It could be safe to say that homosexuality is the result of many factors. But who's to blame? Must we even lay a guilt-trap at anyone's door? Maybe mother, then again there's the father who didn't figure for too much. Society? Genes? The stars? Most people know their sexual orientation by their teens. They don't just suddenly discover they're "straight" and "come out" about it. Let's get real.
Who's to accept the responsibility for our actions? Some have felt "gay" ever since they were very young and therefore imagine that they were born gay. Others seem to pick up, adopt or assimilate homosexual tendencies through association. They must have already had an inclination towards it. It rubbed off on them. Then there are those who were bored and needed a change. They wanted to try it and see if they liked it. Sometimes, due to "force" of circumstances, men in prison, boy's homes and/or monasteries, might resort to homosexual activities. Later, as soon as possible, some of them revert to heterosexual ways, while others continue to enjoy the "best of both world" as a bisexual. Are "bestiality is best" fans born that way? Or are incestuous relationships something innate? Do we have a predisposition chemically for incest? Are we set up for such a fall from birth? Would that justify or excuse us? Is promiscuity merely a part of man's "animal instincts?" Is the challenge of the chase a primeval hang-over from the "days of the hunt?" Actually, ALL of the above are simply DISTRACTIONS! It's not a question of who or what we're most comfortable with, prefer, like or are attracted to; those are only attempts to sidestep the real issue!
God isn't only the Creator, but the Sustainer of the entire universe. As such, his Majesty's Government - headquartered in the highest heaven - has issued (at Mt. Sinai) various health rules and regulations (Malachi 4:4). The Creator-King has predetermined, in His infinite wisdom, which "food and drugs" are safe and sound for our consumption.
If we keep uppermost in mind the reason for our mortal existence, the SUPREME PURPOSE for our human-being; to establish contact with our Superior-Being and develop a relationship with Him - then we'll know and understand that everything God does is for our benefit. God wants to help us, not hinder us. He enjoys encouraging us to attain our goals and fulfill our potential (Luke 12:31-32). Father does know what's best: what He has in store for us is beyond our wildest dreams (Ephes. 3:20; 1 Cor. 2:9)!
The High Cost of Living
Whoever chooses to be a card-carrying member of the homosexual community is entitled to all of it's privileges and persecutions; but you should first COUNT THE COST to see if it's too high of a price for you to pay, like Christians are told to do (Luke 14:28).
If anyone decides to engage in illicit sex or become entangled in "foreign affairs," they're living a lie if they think that God could possibly approve of their improper conduct, and they're compounding their problems if they lead others astray by attempts to endorse such flagrant sin (Rom. 1:32). Do what you want, but don't misrepresent God and His clear-cut Biblical teachings. Don't try and put words in His mouth or censor what He's actually said (Rev. 22:18-19).
Yes, GOD IS LOVE! That's why He hates certain practices with a passion. He frowns upon a dishonest life of stealing, an unfaithful habit of "cheating" on our spouse, a disrespectful attitude towards our parents or persons in authority, religious holidays that are hollow and don't hallow His name, senseless killings and character assassination, idolatrous distractions that come between God and us, an endless trivial pursuit and preoccupation with ourselves and others, instead of putting God first. God loves us and wants us to love Him too, but He considers love more than a four-letter word: love is an attitude exemplified by actions, words that are backed up with deeds (Jas. 2:26). That's why Jesus said that if we really loved Him, we'd show it and not just say it (John 14:15).
Safe-Sex
Since God is love, and Father knows best, He wants us to practice safe-sex. A safe-sex that's good and wholesome, clean and pure, and only available within a marriage where both partners keep their vows and honor their commitments (Heb. 13:4). Sexual intimacy, cuddling and coitus, belongs in the bedroom (of the Biblically-bonded), and it's to involve the union of both minds and bodies (Gen. 2:24). Married couples are challenged to become compatible in every sense of the word. A marriage certificate doesn't have to be "just a piece of paper" or become another broken record! God does recognize the fact that marriage isn't for everyone (Mat. 19:11), but expresses His will that singles remain celibate (1 Thes. 4:3).
God only promises to bless those foods (or relationships) that are sanctioned by His Word (1 Tim. 4:4-5). He's not unsure of Himself or His ways, He's not fickle or foolish, and His Word is reliable, dependable, and not subject to change. This hasn't caused the scriptures to be too popular at times, but they refuse to succumb to peer pressure and remain true to themselves. They're not what needs to change anyway. We do. God hasn't lowered His moral standards or compromised with His food laws, but offers to help raise us to His God-Plane. Christ can cleanse us of our unclean lives (Acts 10:15, 28), because God hasn't called us to remain in Egypt but to head for the Promised Land. Don't just stand there, get a move on it! And leave your excess baggage (sin) behind.
Kosher Food
Although God created us with a hunger drive, an appetite, He doesn't want us to become gluttonous pigs. Neither does He want us to act like horny dogs (1 Cor. 6:13). God's also shown us that just because various food items have been mislabeled "delicacies," we don't have to shove them into our mouths (Lev. 11). We're expected to be mature, not act childish. God warns us to guard the doors of our mind, don't set ourselves up for a fall, and discern what we digest (Ephes. 4:27; Heb. 5:14). We're instructed to scrutinize our food for thought and remember "we are what we eat" and "we become what we think" (Prov. 23:7). God doesn't only want us to watch what we put into our mouths, but what we allow into our minds (Philip. 4:8). For a free list of "government approved" food for thought; what's clean and unclean, pure and impure, kosher and non-kosher - check out Ga. 5:19-23; Ephes. 5:11 and Philip. 1:11.
We're not supposed to remain raw material. God's given us a brain to become refined and keep our baser "instincts" in line (2 Pet. 2:12). The Holy Spirit offers us the help we need to accomplish this job (John 1:12). We should refuse to be reduced to an animal level, simply sensual creatures, choosing a higher standard of living instead. The "if it feels good do it" and "if it looks good eat it" lack of mentality ought to be regarded as an insult to those striving for God's higher intelligence.
Regardless of why you're gay, bisexual or "trysexual" (you'll try anything once), whether or not you've had any choice in the matter - you do have a choice to exercise proper self-control. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SLAVE TO YOUR SENSES (John 8:34), or allow sexual temptations to dictate mindless reactions (Gen. 19:4-11).You're not forced to act upon every thought that enters your mind. You can resist suggestions and reject impulses (2 Cor. 10:5). Every fleeting thought, random idea or stray notion doesn't have to take root and grow if you don't give it fertile ground (Jas. 1:13-15). You can consider its source and nip it in the bud. A "NO TRESPASSING!" frame of mind can be developed to defend you against intruders. Protection is possible. You can say NO! You can curb your appetite! YOU CAN CHANGE!
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5
God and the Gays: Once Gay, Always Gay? (Chapter 3)
Chapter Three
ONCE GAY, ALWAYS GAY?
If we accept the Bible as the literal Word of God, and believe that God says what He means and means what He says, then we can't escape the fact that God expressly forbids any premarital or extramarital sex. The Bible doesn't fool around, it gets straight to the point. The Hebrew God isn't shy. He's also not ashamed of the anatomy He's equipped humans with. He pulls no punches and doesn't allow anyone to pervert His plans. Within the Instruction Manual that God gave to Israel (to give to the world), were explicit blueprints for building successful relationships between both God and man. That scriptural foundation assures us of strong and stable bonds, blessed by God (Ps. 127:1). Anything that contradicts God's building codes undermines and condemns itself.
The Bible bluntly states: 1) There's no room in its quarters for "gay rights." Homosexuality isn't within the bounds of acceptable behavior. It's practice isn't permissible within the Christian Camp and will quickly find itself dumped outside of the City limits (Rev. 22:15). Anyone who dares to defy this ban automatically excludes himself from society at large and brings the death penalty upon himself (Gen. 2:17). We're not supposed to tolerate any deviation, whatsoever, from the "strait and narrow" path of our God. 2) Cross-dressing, transvestism, is also out of the question (Deut. 22:5). God doesn't want any "half-breeds" to promote their hybrid ideas that don't mix too well with God's Word (Lev. 19:19). There's no ifs, ands, or buts about it - no quack psychological explanations or accepted justifications: it's not allowed! Everything's to be black and white, right or wrong, male or female; there's no sense in blurring distinctions or causing unnecessary confusion (Ezek. 22:26). 3) Gay prostitutes shouldn't even attempt to walk the streets, because they'll find out the hard way that it's a dead end (Deut. 23:17-18).
God wants to spare us all and safeguard our homes and mind. He doesn't want us to go past the point of no-return! Once you break down one moral barrier it's easier to break down another. Once the floodgates of hell are opened, everyone's swept away and sexual anarchy reigns!
The barometer of a nation's fall from grace and descent into depravity - just before national captivity and deportation - is whenever homosexuality begins to lose its purposeful stigma (Rom. 1:28). That and every other Biblically-attached stigma is to help keep us in line, remind us of what we're doing, and force us to pay the fine. Instead of attacking the doctor's diagnosis, we should concentrate on improving our condition!
We're free to ignore or reject the scripture's counsel against homosexual activities, but we shouldn't pretend that the Bible's silent on the subject. If someone continues to smoke even after they've read the Surgeon General's warnings against it, so be it. But they shouldn't deny that they've voluntarily increased their risks of contracting a variety of diseases.
Reason for Living
Our reason for living shouldn't be sex - but to develop a proper relationship with God! Life is meant to be far more meaningful that momentary physical pleasures. When Jesus said that "man shouldn't live by bread alone," He revealed there's another dimension - the spiritual - that completes us and transcends the mundane. Our daily request for "bread" (in the Lord's prayer sample) isn't only a humble petition to meet all our physical needs, but that we'll also be spiritually sustained (John 6:35).
The supreme purpose in our respective lives should be to know and become more like out Father in Heaven (Mat. 5:48). Especially when you consider God created each kind after its kind, and then He made mankind after the Godkind! We're offered the opportunity to increasingly bear the divine image and more closely resemble Him (in characteristics) daily. We're urged to live compatible with His glorious Kingdom. At the resurrection, we'll be born again and enter the Kingdom of God.
If we want to be on God's wavelength, come up to His level, and live in peace and harmony (with the law and order of His universe) - we need to realize and accept that certain "trees, food, and fruits" aren't kosher, but are off-limits, taboo! We need to avoid those pitfalls and steer clear of such danger-zones if we're to survive this unique journey (Prov. 4:15). We don't want to become another casualty along the way (Prov. 15:10). God hasn't singled out the gays for any special treatment - or persecution! He's not homophobic, racist, or sexist: God is Love.
And because God loves us all, He has high hopes and dreams for us. That's why God's graciously given us some guidelines and helpful instructions for happy, healthy, and wholesome living: the Tree of Life (1 John 5:3). These voluntary restrictions (you are a free moral-agent) are intended to enhance our lives and enable us to truly enjoy our experiences as humans (John 10:10; Deut. 4:40). They gently regulate our food, thoughts, worship, behavior, drink - every facet of our lives - and benefit every fiber of our being. Sin is sin (Rom. 3:23). Transgression - the breaking - of these practical principles is self-destructive (1 John 3:4; Ezek. 18:31). God forbids any hanky-panky, plain and simple! He doesn't target homosexuals or put them first in the line-up of sex-offenders (1 Cor. 6:9).
We need to put everything in context, within perspective and Biblical focus. Too often today, especially on the too many talk-shows (Mat. 12:36), things are too easily distorted, twisted, and confused. These vital issues are usually viewed from the wrong angle, broached with dishonest motivations and questioned by prejudiced people (Gen. 3:1). How they live for the applause of their "broad-minded" crowd (John 12:34)! Generally, you can't reason with such a mob-mentality or argue with their sick minds (Mat. 7:6). God condemns those "enlightened" hosts who turn things upside down (Isa. 5:20; 2 Cor. 11:14). Regardless of their ratings or rantings, they're not too popular with God. We don't have to remain slaves to sin. Christ can set us free (John 8:36). Should the living dwell among the dead (John 5:25)? Why stay down and out, when you're able to improve your situation, rise above your circumstances, and be within God's grace (Col. 2:13)?
Once gay always gay? How about once an adulterer always an adulterer? Better yet, once a sinner always a sinner (1 Cor. 6:11; 1 John 1:9)? WHO says so? Only if you choose to become a "hardened criminal." You can make progress toward perfection! You can refuse to go with the flow, change the course of your thought-patterns, and escape from the belly of the beast (Ephes. 2:1-6). You can stage a revolt and go free! You don't have to die in "Egypt."
Once a sinner, NOW a saint! There isn't any sin too great, or problem deep-rooted, or mind that's scarred, that Christ can't reach or touch or heal (Ps. 139:7-12; Mat. 15:30). Who would dare condemn whom God has forgiven (Rom. 8:1)? God sent Christ into your world to save, not destroy; to forgive, not damn; to help, not hurt (Luke 9:56). Even Jesus' Hebrew name declares His good intentions toward us (Mat. 1:21).
Pulls From the Past
Without a doubt, there'll be strong pulls from the past and pressure to revert to old, familiar ways: testing our resolve, trying our mettle, and cross-examining our conversion (Deut. 8:2-3). They're to be expected (1 Pet. 4:12), but should be put in proper perspective (Heb. 12:11-13). The very fact that you're now a part of the "Resistance Movement," and engage in bitter conflicts (refusing to surrender), proves your patriotism and displays your determination to win (Ga. 5:17). God respects and will reward your efforts (Heb. 6:10; 11:6). They've been brought to His attention repeatedly (Ps. 116:15). You're not left to fend for yourself! You might feel like it, but you're not all alone. We have a Great Helper, an Unseen Assistant, who can handle anything that might befall us during this battle (Heb. 4:14-16).
When we're pardoned, WE'RE EMPOWERED to overcome our past (Jn. 1:12). God enables us to withstand the onslaught of sin, and remain within the good graces of our Governor (Isa. 9:11; Jude 24). Although you may still feel "gay," your reorientation hasn't taken full effect yet (Ephes. 4:23; Jas. 1:4), DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! Be happy that you've made progress, and that you're even trying to better yourself. That's a miracle in itself. Trust in God (Philip. 4:13). He'll see you through thick and thin, and He'll stay by your side "come hell or high water" (Isa. 43:1-2). It's true that "We conquer by continuing." DON'T GIVE UP! Keep up the struggle: everything you believe in is worth fighting for (Matt. 11:12). You can rest assured that you're very precious to God. He knows you by name.
"Once gay always gay" is a damn LIE! It denies Christ's ability to save and slanders His sacrifice as insufficient! We don't have to believe that propaganda though it's repeated a thousand times. It's nothing more than psychological warfare (2 Cor. 2:11). It's jealously directed against those who've sobered up and have made an about-face in life (1 Pet. 5:8).
Conversion - change - is possible, but it demands patience. Purification is a process that takes time ( 1 John 3:3; Isa. 48:10). It all begins in the mind. We don't have to remain subject to sin's every whim and desire (Rom. 6:14). Slowly but surely, the homosexual obsession will lose its hold over our lives. God can rid us of its side-effects, break our hobbling habits, and release us from the ball and chain of our past (Isa. 45:2).
Christ will gently assist and energize us as we carry on (Isa. 40:29). We're to unburden ourselves before the Father in heartfelt prayer (Mat. 11:28-30; 1 Pet. 5:7), like Jesus did when He was here (Heb. 5:7). Everyone's offered this opportunity of a lifetime: to start over, have a new lease on life, and to wipe the slate clean. It's our option. It's your choice.
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5
ONCE GAY, ALWAYS GAY?
If we accept the Bible as the literal Word of God, and believe that God says what He means and means what He says, then we can't escape the fact that God expressly forbids any premarital or extramarital sex. The Bible doesn't fool around, it gets straight to the point. The Hebrew God isn't shy. He's also not ashamed of the anatomy He's equipped humans with. He pulls no punches and doesn't allow anyone to pervert His plans. Within the Instruction Manual that God gave to Israel (to give to the world), were explicit blueprints for building successful relationships between both God and man. That scriptural foundation assures us of strong and stable bonds, blessed by God (Ps. 127:1). Anything that contradicts God's building codes undermines and condemns itself.
The Bible bluntly states: 1) There's no room in its quarters for "gay rights." Homosexuality isn't within the bounds of acceptable behavior. It's practice isn't permissible within the Christian Camp and will quickly find itself dumped outside of the City limits (Rev. 22:15). Anyone who dares to defy this ban automatically excludes himself from society at large and brings the death penalty upon himself (Gen. 2:17). We're not supposed to tolerate any deviation, whatsoever, from the "strait and narrow" path of our God. 2) Cross-dressing, transvestism, is also out of the question (Deut. 22:5). God doesn't want any "half-breeds" to promote their hybrid ideas that don't mix too well with God's Word (Lev. 19:19). There's no ifs, ands, or buts about it - no quack psychological explanations or accepted justifications: it's not allowed! Everything's to be black and white, right or wrong, male or female; there's no sense in blurring distinctions or causing unnecessary confusion (Ezek. 22:26). 3) Gay prostitutes shouldn't even attempt to walk the streets, because they'll find out the hard way that it's a dead end (Deut. 23:17-18).
God wants to spare us all and safeguard our homes and mind. He doesn't want us to go past the point of no-return! Once you break down one moral barrier it's easier to break down another. Once the floodgates of hell are opened, everyone's swept away and sexual anarchy reigns!
The barometer of a nation's fall from grace and descent into depravity - just before national captivity and deportation - is whenever homosexuality begins to lose its purposeful stigma (Rom. 1:28). That and every other Biblically-attached stigma is to help keep us in line, remind us of what we're doing, and force us to pay the fine. Instead of attacking the doctor's diagnosis, we should concentrate on improving our condition!
We're free to ignore or reject the scripture's counsel against homosexual activities, but we shouldn't pretend that the Bible's silent on the subject. If someone continues to smoke even after they've read the Surgeon General's warnings against it, so be it. But they shouldn't deny that they've voluntarily increased their risks of contracting a variety of diseases.
Reason for Living
Our reason for living shouldn't be sex - but to develop a proper relationship with God! Life is meant to be far more meaningful that momentary physical pleasures. When Jesus said that "man shouldn't live by bread alone," He revealed there's another dimension - the spiritual - that completes us and transcends the mundane. Our daily request for "bread" (in the Lord's prayer sample) isn't only a humble petition to meet all our physical needs, but that we'll also be spiritually sustained (John 6:35).
The supreme purpose in our respective lives should be to know and become more like out Father in Heaven (Mat. 5:48). Especially when you consider God created each kind after its kind, and then He made mankind after the Godkind! We're offered the opportunity to increasingly bear the divine image and more closely resemble Him (in characteristics) daily. We're urged to live compatible with His glorious Kingdom. At the resurrection, we'll be born again and enter the Kingdom of God.
If we want to be on God's wavelength, come up to His level, and live in peace and harmony (with the law and order of His universe) - we need to realize and accept that certain "trees, food, and fruits" aren't kosher, but are off-limits, taboo! We need to avoid those pitfalls and steer clear of such danger-zones if we're to survive this unique journey (Prov. 4:15). We don't want to become another casualty along the way (Prov. 15:10). God hasn't singled out the gays for any special treatment - or persecution! He's not homophobic, racist, or sexist: God is Love.
And because God loves us all, He has high hopes and dreams for us. That's why God's graciously given us some guidelines and helpful instructions for happy, healthy, and wholesome living: the Tree of Life (1 John 5:3). These voluntary restrictions (you are a free moral-agent) are intended to enhance our lives and enable us to truly enjoy our experiences as humans (John 10:10; Deut. 4:40). They gently regulate our food, thoughts, worship, behavior, drink - every facet of our lives - and benefit every fiber of our being. Sin is sin (Rom. 3:23). Transgression - the breaking - of these practical principles is self-destructive (1 John 3:4; Ezek. 18:31). God forbids any hanky-panky, plain and simple! He doesn't target homosexuals or put them first in the line-up of sex-offenders (1 Cor. 6:9).
We need to put everything in context, within perspective and Biblical focus. Too often today, especially on the too many talk-shows (Mat. 12:36), things are too easily distorted, twisted, and confused. These vital issues are usually viewed from the wrong angle, broached with dishonest motivations and questioned by prejudiced people (Gen. 3:1). How they live for the applause of their "broad-minded" crowd (John 12:34)! Generally, you can't reason with such a mob-mentality or argue with their sick minds (Mat. 7:6). God condemns those "enlightened" hosts who turn things upside down (Isa. 5:20; 2 Cor. 11:14). Regardless of their ratings or rantings, they're not too popular with God. We don't have to remain slaves to sin. Christ can set us free (John 8:36). Should the living dwell among the dead (John 5:25)? Why stay down and out, when you're able to improve your situation, rise above your circumstances, and be within God's grace (Col. 2:13)?
Once gay always gay? How about once an adulterer always an adulterer? Better yet, once a sinner always a sinner (1 Cor. 6:11; 1 John 1:9)? WHO says so? Only if you choose to become a "hardened criminal." You can make progress toward perfection! You can refuse to go with the flow, change the course of your thought-patterns, and escape from the belly of the beast (Ephes. 2:1-6). You can stage a revolt and go free! You don't have to die in "Egypt."
Once a sinner, NOW a saint! There isn't any sin too great, or problem deep-rooted, or mind that's scarred, that Christ can't reach or touch or heal (Ps. 139:7-12; Mat. 15:30). Who would dare condemn whom God has forgiven (Rom. 8:1)? God sent Christ into your world to save, not destroy; to forgive, not damn; to help, not hurt (Luke 9:56). Even Jesus' Hebrew name declares His good intentions toward us (Mat. 1:21).
Pulls From the Past
Without a doubt, there'll be strong pulls from the past and pressure to revert to old, familiar ways: testing our resolve, trying our mettle, and cross-examining our conversion (Deut. 8:2-3). They're to be expected (1 Pet. 4:12), but should be put in proper perspective (Heb. 12:11-13). The very fact that you're now a part of the "Resistance Movement," and engage in bitter conflicts (refusing to surrender), proves your patriotism and displays your determination to win (Ga. 5:17). God respects and will reward your efforts (Heb. 6:10; 11:6). They've been brought to His attention repeatedly (Ps. 116:15). You're not left to fend for yourself! You might feel like it, but you're not all alone. We have a Great Helper, an Unseen Assistant, who can handle anything that might befall us during this battle (Heb. 4:14-16).
When we're pardoned, WE'RE EMPOWERED to overcome our past (Jn. 1:12). God enables us to withstand the onslaught of sin, and remain within the good graces of our Governor (Isa. 9:11; Jude 24). Although you may still feel "gay," your reorientation hasn't taken full effect yet (Ephes. 4:23; Jas. 1:4), DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! Be happy that you've made progress, and that you're even trying to better yourself. That's a miracle in itself. Trust in God (Philip. 4:13). He'll see you through thick and thin, and He'll stay by your side "come hell or high water" (Isa. 43:1-2). It's true that "We conquer by continuing." DON'T GIVE UP! Keep up the struggle: everything you believe in is worth fighting for (Matt. 11:12). You can rest assured that you're very precious to God. He knows you by name.
"Once gay always gay" is a damn LIE! It denies Christ's ability to save and slanders His sacrifice as insufficient! We don't have to believe that propaganda though it's repeated a thousand times. It's nothing more than psychological warfare (2 Cor. 2:11). It's jealously directed against those who've sobered up and have made an about-face in life (1 Pet. 5:8).
Conversion - change - is possible, but it demands patience. Purification is a process that takes time ( 1 John 3:3; Isa. 48:10). It all begins in the mind. We don't have to remain subject to sin's every whim and desire (Rom. 6:14). Slowly but surely, the homosexual obsession will lose its hold over our lives. God can rid us of its side-effects, break our hobbling habits, and release us from the ball and chain of our past (Isa. 45:2).
Christ will gently assist and energize us as we carry on (Isa. 40:29). We're to unburden ourselves before the Father in heartfelt prayer (Mat. 11:28-30; 1 Pet. 5:7), like Jesus did when He was here (Heb. 5:7). Everyone's offered this opportunity of a lifetime: to start over, have a new lease on life, and to wipe the slate clean. It's our option. It's your choice.
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God and the Gays: Of Vice and Men (Chapter 4)
Chapter Four
OF VICE AND MEN
Why do we do the things we do? Who hasn't asked themselves that question at one time or another? Must we remain creatures of habit? Is there "No Way Out?" Even the apostle Paul wrestled with this problem, but he came to the happy conclusion that we can overcome all in Christ (Rom. 7:14-25; Philip. 4:13). But Christ Himself said it wouldn't be easy, and Paul basically admitted that we'd have to go through hell before Heaven would be established on earth (Acts 14:22). Yet as Thomas Paine declared: "The harder the conflict the more glorious the Triumph." And indeed there is a war within, a dueling conflict of interests, a dual nature that demands constant attention (1 Pet. 2:11; Ga. 5:17). True Christians are even compared to soldiers that must learn how to effectively fight and become toughened in the process (2 Tim. 2:3; 1 Tim. 6:12). We're commanded to kill carnality, subdue sin, and force ourselves into line (Col. 3:5; Mat. 11:12). Of course, it's only through the power and Spirit of God that we're able to overcome, grow, and conquer all of those things that would love to tear us down (Ps. 60:12; Ephes. 6:10-17).
What is one man's strength is another man's weakness, but we must all struggle to attain God's Image through the process of conversion (Philip. 3:12). We're to become spiritually stronger by carrying our cross and bearing our burden; they're to make us and not break us. Although we're presently only too human, we're offered the opportunity to increasingly partake of the divine nature and holiness (2 Pet. 1:4), experiencing in advance the glory of the Kingdom of God (Heb. 6:5); all contingent upon our response to God's lead, submission to His Will, and the exercising of His Spirit (Rom. 8:14).
Considering how transcendent true spirituality can be, why do we allow ourselves to lower our sights and settle for less (Rom. 8:6)? How damnable are such distractions that would disrupt our clear concepts of Christ and His Kingdom! Satan attempts to short-circuit God's Spirit, cause static on our wavelength to Heaven, and overload our minds to jam God's message (Ephes. 2:2).
We're to keep life's purpose uppermost in mind, putting all things in perspective, enjoying the light of this Vision (2 Tim.1:7; Ephes.1:17-19). Yet the god of this present world's system has blinded his subjects to their glorious potential (2 Cor. 4:4), led them astray by tinsel temptations, and enslaved them through deceitful sin.
Adrenalin and Ego
The Bible reveals that two of men's biggest problems are LUST and PRIDE (1 John 2:16). They go hand in hand, and are like a dog chasing its tail: a vicious cycle. Why do we keep going out to the bars? Because it's an addiction. When you're all dressed up, and want to strut your stuff, where else is there to go? It's adrenalin and ego. They're partners for life - or death. They artificially energize us and bring us back for more.
Who doesn't like to cruise and be cruised? There's always that challenge of the chase, that anticipation of the evening. But what if the next time your catch includes some sexual disease? Are you ready and willing to exchange the cool clothes and hot look for a hospital robe? Those boots that are made for walkin' for slippers? That well-groomed hair for baldness? Go from Mr. Popular to poor pariah? It is a possibility. It is reality. But then we don't like to think about such disturbing thoughts, and besides, it always happens to someone else, "the other guy." At least so far. Well? Another notch on the bedpost might be another foot in the grave. This is a serious subject and an uncomfortable one, but as far as promiscuity goes - you've got to stop it, before it stops you!
We're told that the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life (Rom. 6:23). Ultimately, the penalty for every sin unrepented of is death (Rev. 21:8), but some sins exact their penalty quicker than others. Is AIDS a plague sent from some angry God? Could He be upset with our stubborn ways (Mark 3:5)? Is it possible God's simply taken away His protective shield (Isa.5:5), and left us at the mercy of cause and effect (Jer. 2:19; 4:18)? God reveals that same-sex practices are self-destructive and contrary to what's natural (Rom. 1:26-28). He also explodes the myth that it's harmless and declares both minds and bodies become abused (Ps. 107:17). Does this stark fact justify "gay-bashing?" NO! We need to pray for those entangled in sin's web.
Nothing's so hypocritical as a straight couple (living together with children out of wedlock) getting interviewed as they watch the spectacle of a "Gay Pride" parade. Shaking their heads, they say: "We just think it's disgusting. Besides, the Bible says it wrong." Since when did they ever care about what the Bible has to say? It probably has a few things to say to them also! Everybody needs to get their act together and straighten up (Isa. 40:3). We could all use some "home-improvement" (1 Cor. 6:19-20). Whereas there are many sins - and sin is simply breaking God's code of conduct (1 John 3:4) - this booklet's specifically dealing with homosexuality, although the principles contained within these pages pertain to all.
Offensive Stereotypes
What's so difficult for heterosexuals to comprehend is that being gay is as normal for homosexuals as being straight is for them. And that many homosexuals also can't understand the sexual attraction of straights. Both "sexes" are a mystery to each other! Gays are quite capable of appreciating a woman's mind, beauty or charm - but are generally repulsed at the thought of having sex with one! Many women adore their unique relationships with homosexuals because they know they're accepted for who they are without any ulterior motives. It's refreshing to be free of sexual harassment or pressure. Although there are other women who consider gay men a tremendous turn on, and are titillated by the challenge to be their first and "convert" them.
It's offensive to be thoughtlessly thrown in together, as if we all shared the same sexual desires or fantasies, or to be stereotyped as drag-queens or pinko sissies! Homosexuals are individuals and as different from one another as heterosexuals are. We have our "Marlboro Men" as well as a "Minnie Mouse" or two, some who are promiscuous and others who remain monogamous or celebrate celibacy. And the idiotic idea that homosexuals will jump for anything that happens to be male is an insult. Don't flatter yourself. Homosexuals have their own tastes, preferences and standards (or lack of them) like everybody else. Should that be so surprising?
Homosexuals shouldn't be equated with rapists. Rarely would they force themselves upon anyone who wasn't a willing person or a consenting adult. However, as in the "straight" world, there are those ugly exceptions to the rule who don't know how to take no for an answer or keep their hands to themselves.This isn't an attempt to promote homosexuality (it doesn't need any) or enlist hungry recruits. It's an honest effort to dispel myths and help rid people of dangerous misconceptions. Only the truth can liberate us from lies and deliver us from deception. A new and improved understanding is essential for everybody's growth.
As for those who might forget that homosexuals are human - whom Christ also died for and seeks to save - they'd do well to remember that immature name-calling falls into the same category of those who could be held in contempt of court (Mat. 5:22).
Hate-words such as nigger, spic, kike or faggot aren't representative of God's Kingdom. But then again, neither is yelling bigot or such brand names as sexist, homophobe, and racist (1 John 2:9). Condemning all Christians because of the words or actions of a few is foolish.
Sometimes we need to forcibly remind ourselves that everyone is potentially in God's image. We must hate the sin, but never the sinner. And we should hate the sin - not just because it upsets up or disturbs us personally - but because it's harming the sinner (whom we should love). This goes against the flow and demands that we rise above ourselves and our petty prejudices, but it's prayerfully possible (Mat. 5:45). And again, there are degrees of homosexuality. Some are "gay all the way" or bisexual (double trouble!), while others only experiment with it and decide it's not for them. There are also those who wish to God they were straight and could marry and have a family (often due to unbearable pressure or religious convictions).
Few homosexuals are mass murderers or child-molesters, contrary to exaggerated fears and bizarre movies or twisted individuals. Any "sex-offender" will be denied entrance into God's Kingdom (Rev. 21:27). Perverts will find themselves prevented from spoiling Paradise. It's not just because of their physical acts, but because of their mind's spiritual miscarriage. It's their attitude, not just their selfish actions, that abort their royal birth.
Active homosexuals and practicing heterosexuals, must repent of their sexual sins and become practicing - not just professing - Christians! It's something that will have to be kept under control daily, even though it can be frustrating and frightening to forego such a personal part of our lives, but it's for a good cause: God's Kingdom (Isa. 56:4-5).
Remember, as stated before, God forbids any premarital or extramarital sex. He hasn't made an exception for homosexuals. There's no preferential treatment. Even if God did allow homosexuality - which He doesn't - that wouldn't excuse continued careless sex, but would require of homosexuals the same as heterosexuals: no illicit sex, a strictly monogamous relationship, and a sure commitment. God doesn't have a double-standard.
We have to overcome lust or it will overcome us. Without a doubt, sex is one of the greatest physical sensations. No wonder it's so popular - but it comes and it goes. Since we're here today and gone tomorrow - is sex (or a relationship) really worth giving up eternal life for? If we could only begin to grasp how transcendent, pure and glorious our spiritual experiences are destined to be - the rotting flesh can't compare! The divine delights are so far superior, utterly indescribable to mortal man, that it's mind-boggling! God is the joyous Fountain of Life with flowing Rivers of endless Pleasures (Ps. 16:11; 36:8)!
The Fire Within
Everyone - gay or straight - has the "fire" within (1 Cor. 7:9). Some burn more than others, but it's still there. God understands proper sexual desire and simply commands that we develop His character to control and channel it. He knows our human need to love and be loved, to touch and feel, to give of ourselves totally in a reciprocal relationship. However, God requires that we find such fulfillment within the safe and secure boundaries of marriage, lest we careen out of control with unwanted children, abortion, devastating disease, scarred minds and abused bodies (Heb. 13:4). But it can be traumatic if you're NOT straight and marriage isn't an option! It's heartbreaking and gut-wrenching, initially, to realize God might want you to remain single, without a significant other ( 1 Cor. 7:24; Matt. 11:6). Although just being straight doesn't guarantee you'll ever marry, there's always that hope. Everything must be kept in Biblical focus or you'll lose your mind and salvation! God PURPOSELY calls some who aren't attached (1 Cor. 12:18). Why? It's easier for them to be wedded to God's Work and married to Christ's Mission (1 Cor. 7:32,35; Matt. 19:12).
Therefore, if someone can see through the smokescreen of exploited emotions and desires, and decides to love and obey Christ through it all - rejecting sin's advances and turning down its many propositions - God will highly honor and respect their efforts. He promises to love and comfort them, and graciously grant them an even greater strength and peace of mind (John 14:15-16, 27).
Dare to be different. Don't just follow the crowd - especially when they don't even know where they're going! The sooner you recognize the seriousness of sin, and act accordingly, the better (Ecc. 12:1). Youth is transient and one-night stands are vain. Wake up and smell the coffee!
Sin must become unthinkable (Jas. 1:14-15)! We can't afford to entertain any thoughts that would drag us both down and under, sweeping us away again (Mat. 5:28). We shouldn't risk going past the point of rescue. We should've learned our lesson by now and feel enough is enough! Haven't we graduated from the school of hard knocks? Therefore, we're sufficiently educated to reject the trial and error approach (1 Pet. 4:3). We know which "school of thought" is worthwhile and offers any sort of a future.
Understanding that we're living on borrowed time, that we've been given a new lease on life, and that we had been on death row (and yet received an unbelievable pardon from our Governor) - we must let go of the past and its corrosive influence (Philip. 3:13). We're to be dead to our old way of life and thinking (Ps. 146:4), and accept the resurrection that is in Christ (Rom. 6).
We're no longer to imbibe of alcohol excessively, but instead be embued with God's Holy Spirit (Ephes. 5:18). Our new moderation is intended to magnify God's glory, revealing His influence in our lives (Philip. 4:5). And we're not to be surprised when our old friends and former acquaintances express shock or challenge our change (1 Pet. 4:4). It doesn't compute with their old way of thinking. They're relying on out-dated information and really don't know the new you!
Knowing how grave and deceitful sin can be (Heb. 3:13), we're not to offer it any occasion to oppress us (Ephes. 4:27), nor ever attempt to compromise or participate in the charade of a "peaceful coexistence" (Deut. 7:2). Therefore, aware of the inherent dangers, we're to avoid those people, places or things that would throw fuel on our fire (Prov. 1:10; 4:14-15; 2 Tim. 2:22). Don't set yourself up for a fall, or be fooled by selfish flattery (Prov. 7:21), or seduced by lying eyes (Prov. 6:25). In short, beware the "devil in blue jeans!"
God can break the grip and release us from whatever hold vice might have on us (Isa. 45:2; Ps. 107:16). We don't have to remain creatures of habit. We can become God's Sons and Daughters. There is a Way out: God has provided us with a marvelous Door of opportunity - but we must walk through it (John 10:9). Instead of suffering paralysis (like prisoners of the past), let's look forward and go ahead, confident of our bright future (Mat. 13:43; Philip. 1:6).
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OF VICE AND MEN
Why do we do the things we do? Who hasn't asked themselves that question at one time or another? Must we remain creatures of habit? Is there "No Way Out?" Even the apostle Paul wrestled with this problem, but he came to the happy conclusion that we can overcome all in Christ (Rom. 7:14-25; Philip. 4:13). But Christ Himself said it wouldn't be easy, and Paul basically admitted that we'd have to go through hell before Heaven would be established on earth (Acts 14:22). Yet as Thomas Paine declared: "The harder the conflict the more glorious the Triumph." And indeed there is a war within, a dueling conflict of interests, a dual nature that demands constant attention (1 Pet. 2:11; Ga. 5:17). True Christians are even compared to soldiers that must learn how to effectively fight and become toughened in the process (2 Tim. 2:3; 1 Tim. 6:12). We're commanded to kill carnality, subdue sin, and force ourselves into line (Col. 3:5; Mat. 11:12). Of course, it's only through the power and Spirit of God that we're able to overcome, grow, and conquer all of those things that would love to tear us down (Ps. 60:12; Ephes. 6:10-17).
What is one man's strength is another man's weakness, but we must all struggle to attain God's Image through the process of conversion (Philip. 3:12). We're to become spiritually stronger by carrying our cross and bearing our burden; they're to make us and not break us. Although we're presently only too human, we're offered the opportunity to increasingly partake of the divine nature and holiness (2 Pet. 1:4), experiencing in advance the glory of the Kingdom of God (Heb. 6:5); all contingent upon our response to God's lead, submission to His Will, and the exercising of His Spirit (Rom. 8:14).
Considering how transcendent true spirituality can be, why do we allow ourselves to lower our sights and settle for less (Rom. 8:6)? How damnable are such distractions that would disrupt our clear concepts of Christ and His Kingdom! Satan attempts to short-circuit God's Spirit, cause static on our wavelength to Heaven, and overload our minds to jam God's message (Ephes. 2:2).
We're to keep life's purpose uppermost in mind, putting all things in perspective, enjoying the light of this Vision (2 Tim.1:7; Ephes.1:17-19). Yet the god of this present world's system has blinded his subjects to their glorious potential (2 Cor. 4:4), led them astray by tinsel temptations, and enslaved them through deceitful sin.
Adrenalin and Ego
The Bible reveals that two of men's biggest problems are LUST and PRIDE (1 John 2:16). They go hand in hand, and are like a dog chasing its tail: a vicious cycle. Why do we keep going out to the bars? Because it's an addiction. When you're all dressed up, and want to strut your stuff, where else is there to go? It's adrenalin and ego. They're partners for life - or death. They artificially energize us and bring us back for more.
Who doesn't like to cruise and be cruised? There's always that challenge of the chase, that anticipation of the evening. But what if the next time your catch includes some sexual disease? Are you ready and willing to exchange the cool clothes and hot look for a hospital robe? Those boots that are made for walkin' for slippers? That well-groomed hair for baldness? Go from Mr. Popular to poor pariah? It is a possibility. It is reality. But then we don't like to think about such disturbing thoughts, and besides, it always happens to someone else, "the other guy." At least so far. Well? Another notch on the bedpost might be another foot in the grave. This is a serious subject and an uncomfortable one, but as far as promiscuity goes - you've got to stop it, before it stops you!
We're told that the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life (Rom. 6:23). Ultimately, the penalty for every sin unrepented of is death (Rev. 21:8), but some sins exact their penalty quicker than others. Is AIDS a plague sent from some angry God? Could He be upset with our stubborn ways (Mark 3:5)? Is it possible God's simply taken away His protective shield (Isa.5:5), and left us at the mercy of cause and effect (Jer. 2:19; 4:18)? God reveals that same-sex practices are self-destructive and contrary to what's natural (Rom. 1:26-28). He also explodes the myth that it's harmless and declares both minds and bodies become abused (Ps. 107:17). Does this stark fact justify "gay-bashing?" NO! We need to pray for those entangled in sin's web.
Nothing's so hypocritical as a straight couple (living together with children out of wedlock) getting interviewed as they watch the spectacle of a "Gay Pride" parade. Shaking their heads, they say: "We just think it's disgusting. Besides, the Bible says it wrong." Since when did they ever care about what the Bible has to say? It probably has a few things to say to them also! Everybody needs to get their act together and straighten up (Isa. 40:3). We could all use some "home-improvement" (1 Cor. 6:19-20). Whereas there are many sins - and sin is simply breaking God's code of conduct (1 John 3:4) - this booklet's specifically dealing with homosexuality, although the principles contained within these pages pertain to all.
Offensive Stereotypes
What's so difficult for heterosexuals to comprehend is that being gay is as normal for homosexuals as being straight is for them. And that many homosexuals also can't understand the sexual attraction of straights. Both "sexes" are a mystery to each other! Gays are quite capable of appreciating a woman's mind, beauty or charm - but are generally repulsed at the thought of having sex with one! Many women adore their unique relationships with homosexuals because they know they're accepted for who they are without any ulterior motives. It's refreshing to be free of sexual harassment or pressure. Although there are other women who consider gay men a tremendous turn on, and are titillated by the challenge to be their first and "convert" them.
It's offensive to be thoughtlessly thrown in together, as if we all shared the same sexual desires or fantasies, or to be stereotyped as drag-queens or pinko sissies! Homosexuals are individuals and as different from one another as heterosexuals are. We have our "Marlboro Men" as well as a "Minnie Mouse" or two, some who are promiscuous and others who remain monogamous or celebrate celibacy. And the idiotic idea that homosexuals will jump for anything that happens to be male is an insult. Don't flatter yourself. Homosexuals have their own tastes, preferences and standards (or lack of them) like everybody else. Should that be so surprising?
Homosexuals shouldn't be equated with rapists. Rarely would they force themselves upon anyone who wasn't a willing person or a consenting adult. However, as in the "straight" world, there are those ugly exceptions to the rule who don't know how to take no for an answer or keep their hands to themselves.This isn't an attempt to promote homosexuality (it doesn't need any) or enlist hungry recruits. It's an honest effort to dispel myths and help rid people of dangerous misconceptions. Only the truth can liberate us from lies and deliver us from deception. A new and improved understanding is essential for everybody's growth.
As for those who might forget that homosexuals are human - whom Christ also died for and seeks to save - they'd do well to remember that immature name-calling falls into the same category of those who could be held in contempt of court (Mat. 5:22).
Hate-words such as nigger, spic, kike or faggot aren't representative of God's Kingdom. But then again, neither is yelling bigot or such brand names as sexist, homophobe, and racist (1 John 2:9). Condemning all Christians because of the words or actions of a few is foolish.
Sometimes we need to forcibly remind ourselves that everyone is potentially in God's image. We must hate the sin, but never the sinner. And we should hate the sin - not just because it upsets up or disturbs us personally - but because it's harming the sinner (whom we should love). This goes against the flow and demands that we rise above ourselves and our petty prejudices, but it's prayerfully possible (Mat. 5:45). And again, there are degrees of homosexuality. Some are "gay all the way" or bisexual (double trouble!), while others only experiment with it and decide it's not for them. There are also those who wish to God they were straight and could marry and have a family (often due to unbearable pressure or religious convictions).
Few homosexuals are mass murderers or child-molesters, contrary to exaggerated fears and bizarre movies or twisted individuals. Any "sex-offender" will be denied entrance into God's Kingdom (Rev. 21:27). Perverts will find themselves prevented from spoiling Paradise. It's not just because of their physical acts, but because of their mind's spiritual miscarriage. It's their attitude, not just their selfish actions, that abort their royal birth.
Active homosexuals and practicing heterosexuals, must repent of their sexual sins and become practicing - not just professing - Christians! It's something that will have to be kept under control daily, even though it can be frustrating and frightening to forego such a personal part of our lives, but it's for a good cause: God's Kingdom (Isa. 56:4-5).
Remember, as stated before, God forbids any premarital or extramarital sex. He hasn't made an exception for homosexuals. There's no preferential treatment. Even if God did allow homosexuality - which He doesn't - that wouldn't excuse continued careless sex, but would require of homosexuals the same as heterosexuals: no illicit sex, a strictly monogamous relationship, and a sure commitment. God doesn't have a double-standard.
We have to overcome lust or it will overcome us. Without a doubt, sex is one of the greatest physical sensations. No wonder it's so popular - but it comes and it goes. Since we're here today and gone tomorrow - is sex (or a relationship) really worth giving up eternal life for? If we could only begin to grasp how transcendent, pure and glorious our spiritual experiences are destined to be - the rotting flesh can't compare! The divine delights are so far superior, utterly indescribable to mortal man, that it's mind-boggling! God is the joyous Fountain of Life with flowing Rivers of endless Pleasures (Ps. 16:11; 36:8)!
The Fire Within
Everyone - gay or straight - has the "fire" within (1 Cor. 7:9). Some burn more than others, but it's still there. God understands proper sexual desire and simply commands that we develop His character to control and channel it. He knows our human need to love and be loved, to touch and feel, to give of ourselves totally in a reciprocal relationship. However, God requires that we find such fulfillment within the safe and secure boundaries of marriage, lest we careen out of control with unwanted children, abortion, devastating disease, scarred minds and abused bodies (Heb. 13:4). But it can be traumatic if you're NOT straight and marriage isn't an option! It's heartbreaking and gut-wrenching, initially, to realize God might want you to remain single, without a significant other ( 1 Cor. 7:24; Matt. 11:6). Although just being straight doesn't guarantee you'll ever marry, there's always that hope. Everything must be kept in Biblical focus or you'll lose your mind and salvation! God PURPOSELY calls some who aren't attached (1 Cor. 12:18). Why? It's easier for them to be wedded to God's Work and married to Christ's Mission (1 Cor. 7:32,35; Matt. 19:12).
Therefore, if someone can see through the smokescreen of exploited emotions and desires, and decides to love and obey Christ through it all - rejecting sin's advances and turning down its many propositions - God will highly honor and respect their efforts. He promises to love and comfort them, and graciously grant them an even greater strength and peace of mind (John 14:15-16, 27).
Dare to be different. Don't just follow the crowd - especially when they don't even know where they're going! The sooner you recognize the seriousness of sin, and act accordingly, the better (Ecc. 12:1). Youth is transient and one-night stands are vain. Wake up and smell the coffee!
Sin must become unthinkable (Jas. 1:14-15)! We can't afford to entertain any thoughts that would drag us both down and under, sweeping us away again (Mat. 5:28). We shouldn't risk going past the point of rescue. We should've learned our lesson by now and feel enough is enough! Haven't we graduated from the school of hard knocks? Therefore, we're sufficiently educated to reject the trial and error approach (1 Pet. 4:3). We know which "school of thought" is worthwhile and offers any sort of a future.
Understanding that we're living on borrowed time, that we've been given a new lease on life, and that we had been on death row (and yet received an unbelievable pardon from our Governor) - we must let go of the past and its corrosive influence (Philip. 3:13). We're to be dead to our old way of life and thinking (Ps. 146:4), and accept the resurrection that is in Christ (Rom. 6).
We're no longer to imbibe of alcohol excessively, but instead be embued with God's Holy Spirit (Ephes. 5:18). Our new moderation is intended to magnify God's glory, revealing His influence in our lives (Philip. 4:5). And we're not to be surprised when our old friends and former acquaintances express shock or challenge our change (1 Pet. 4:4). It doesn't compute with their old way of thinking. They're relying on out-dated information and really don't know the new you!
Knowing how grave and deceitful sin can be (Heb. 3:13), we're not to offer it any occasion to oppress us (Ephes. 4:27), nor ever attempt to compromise or participate in the charade of a "peaceful coexistence" (Deut. 7:2). Therefore, aware of the inherent dangers, we're to avoid those people, places or things that would throw fuel on our fire (Prov. 1:10; 4:14-15; 2 Tim. 2:22). Don't set yourself up for a fall, or be fooled by selfish flattery (Prov. 7:21), or seduced by lying eyes (Prov. 6:25). In short, beware the "devil in blue jeans!"
God can break the grip and release us from whatever hold vice might have on us (Isa. 45:2; Ps. 107:16). We don't have to remain creatures of habit. We can become God's Sons and Daughters. There is a Way out: God has provided us with a marvelous Door of opportunity - but we must walk through it (John 10:9). Instead of suffering paralysis (like prisoners of the past), let's look forward and go ahead, confident of our bright future (Mat. 13:43; Philip. 1:6).
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